Here we are again, a New Year, 2019 and another year to reflect both the good and the bad.
Today is a great day to sit down with a notebook & journal. What great things did you accomplish in 2018? What can you do better? What goals do you have for 2019?
Did you read what I just wrote?
* What did you accomplish?
* What can you do better this year?
That is the problem with our world. All we worry about is talking about the great things you’ve accomplished the past year. That’s great, congrats to you! You should be proud of all your amazing accomplishments. I have a huge list as well.
But what about your failures in 2018?
The word FAILURE is touted as taboo!
No one talks about failure, but failure is the KEY to success! Without failures in life, we wouldn’t be on the right path in life.
For as many great things that I accomplished in 2018, I have a ton more failures to celebrate, because those failures taught me a good, hard lesson and taught me to move in the right direction.
Today we are going to dive deeper into failure and how you can use that to fuel your success in life to achieve your goals in 2019.
Are you curious about my failures?
Great! Let’s talk about them, because as much as I would love to share all my amazing success from 2018, I think you have to understand where it all came from.
Failure #1: My business: Skin Deep
In February, I had the slowest month of the year. I was ready to shut down my doors because I didn’t have enough money to cover my biz bills or kids’ activities.
Thankfully, I’m living with my parents, so I didn’t have rent or house bills, because I would have been in the red.
What did this failure teach me?
I did a Facebook live video to ask for help & ask for business. I literally walked around & handed out my card to every single person I knew asking if they needed a facial or if they knew someone who needed a facial.
Was it scary, absolutely! But what was the result?
My business started growing and I was able to pay all my bills and have a little left over to start saving up for my house.
Am I totally in the clear? NO WAY!!! Do I still have scary months? ABSOLUTELY! But all I can do is push through and know that this is all temporary and my business is growing!
Another biz failure is that this fall I hired an employee, but it wasn’t the right timing and didn’t end up working out.
Will I try again? Of course! I would love to have a backup or someone there on more evenings and weekends so I can focus on my kids.
And I’m still struggling with social media & how to find my place on Facebook and Instagram, but that’s a work in progress. My goal on social media is to inspire people to understand how to navigate through the noise of the beauty industry, know who to trust for information & who to avoid.
Another important message I want to send on social media is that skin care HAS to be simple! There’s no need to buy 25+ products to use on a daily or weekly basis, it’s simply a waste of money.
Buy what works for your skin & you end up SAVING time and money because your skin will begin to look good and FEEL good. That’s my ultimate goal – change lives one face at a time.
Failure #2: My Divorce
This is something I avoid talking about online because divorce is personal. No one likes to admit that they failed at marriage or at a life they started to create. No one goes into marriage thinking that they will end up single with 3 kids.
When it happens, not only is it a major life change for YOU, but now you have kids and have to maintain a civil relationship with your ex. And this person isn’t someone you will eventually fade away from, he’s in your life forever!
I had a bad attorney who didn’t do anything to push the divorce process along. It stalled and sat still for almost a full year before I finally took action & found a new one. It’s been a LONG process and I was upset and angry for a long time because of it.
What did this failure teach me?
Divorce is a long process and at some point you have to realize that it’s not up to you! That was a REALLY hard thing for me to accept and trust in my heart that when this door is ready to close, it will.
All I can do is look to the lessons I’m here to learn from it. How can I use it for the rest of my life and how will I be able to help others because of my life experience?
My only request from the universe is that the door to my divorce closes by Jan 23, 2019 because I turn 40 and would like to start my next decade of life on a positive track.
Failure #3: My kids
This is a biggie. No one knows about this one and I’m putting it out there for everyone to read (which is VERY hard for me to admit as a parent).
My kids are a hot mess! Everyone says that about their kids, but mine really, really are. I am a single mom of 3. I honestly have NO control of them and they literally run circles around me on a daily basis.
There is non-stop fighting and back lash at anything I ask them. I tell them to walk, they run; jump they sit; I say Boo & they laugh.
They are ALL angry due to their life circumstances & inconsistency from the divorce. They always ask questions about it and blame me for everything that happened, which I was the one who left the marriage, so I am the one who created all this for them. I am also the one struggling here to parent alone and fight battles that have no end.
My life as a single parent feels like a hamster wheel because there is no normalcy, no listening, no teamwork and no help from any of my kids. It’s an extremely difficult place to be and I find myself resenting my kids when things get really hard.
I also know that one day our lives will be better because I walked away from a marriage that I wasn’t happy in. Right now I have no idea what that looks like, but one day I will understand everything in a clear picture.
What did this failure teach me?
It’s time to take control and get my kids the help they need. I am one person and I cannot parent alone! I’m not looking for a partner to come in & save the day. I need a team from their dad, counseling, my parents, my sisters & their significant others to be on the same page as me. And all help me out whenever they can.
It DOES take a village to raise kids and my biggest problem HAS been that I’ve tried to do everything all on my own. All I can say is, “Look where has it gotten me”.
The kids and I are in a horrible place right now. Here’s a perfect picture about how fed up as a single parent I am:
On Saturday (Dec. 29th), the kids and I flew to AZ to spend the week there with their Aunts, Uncles & cousins.
What happened was they fought me every single step of the way & were on their absolute worst behavior.
I took them to see Mary Poppins on Dec 31 to break up the day & do something fun on a rainy day. Well, we ended up getting kicked out of the movie theater because my daughter had a meltdown.
What did I do?
Booked a return flight home at 8pm on New Years Eve. We rang in 2019 up in the air without any party hats, champagne or special drinks. It was like the new year never happened. Not an ideal place to be.
If this is rock bottom, then it’s only up from here!
Thank you for letting me share my story. I would love to hear from you…
What were your biggest failures in 2018?
Cheers to a successful 2019
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